Les femmes voilées, en d'autres termes, transgressent la norme sociale. Comme autrefois, le procès en sorcellerie qui leur est intenté repose sur la conviction intime qu'elles ne se contentent pas d'être qui elles sont: différentes. On estime qu'elles sont animées de mauvaises intentions envers le reste de la communauté.

Mais ne peut-on renverser la perspective, en se demandant si le rejet du voile au nom de la laïcité n'est pas un communautarisme déguisé en universalisme?
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Les caractéristiques des personnes qui s’identifient comme bisexuelles ne témoignent pas vraiment d’une indifférence au genre des partenaires sexuels ou conjugaux, mais d’un élargissement aux personnes de même sexe d’une sexualité dont les personnes de l’autre sexe sont le centre.

Intéressant ce décalage entre déclarations et pratiques. C'est d'une manière similaire que je vis ma bisexualité : Mes pratiques sont majoritairement lesbiennes et c'est bien le lesbianisme que je porte politiquement et je n'envisage pas la moindre conjugalité (ni sexualité) avec des hommes cis bien que je puisse avoir parfois une forte attirance pour certains d'entre eux.

(Et comment s'inscrivent les personnes non-binaires et les hommes trans là dedans ? J'aurais pas assez d'un shaarlien pour l'expliquer, mais illes n'ont certainement pas un statut social et un vécu d'hommes cis)
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We, as queer people, do our best to know as much about our own lived experiences as possible, and sometimes we forget that others are trailing behind, and not necessarily by choice. Societal changes are oftentimes felt much more strongly in metropolises than other areas, so can anyone struggling to keep up with queer liberation actually be blamed for that phenomenon? What happened to giving people the benefit of the doubt?

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We must understand that being unsure isn’t the same as being unsympathetic, and that the true bigots aren't the ones taking the time to ask for our help.
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Le réseau social indique en outre que « toute action prise à l'encontre d'une page ou d'un contenu est liée à la publication de contenus qui contreviennent à nos Standards de la Communauté ». Quels sont ces standards que n'auraient pas respectés les deux syndicats ? Facebook ne répond pas.
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C'est vraiment triste de voir des gens détester la fiction à ce point alors que la littérature de fiction fait parti des meilleurs vecteurs de transmission d'idées.

C'est pas parce que « la bible est une fiction » qu'il ne faut pas la prendre au sérieux et qu'elle ne devrait avoir aucune influence sur nos vie au contraire. En tant qu'œuvre majeure de fiction il faut la prendre au sérieux et réfléchir à ce qu'elle transmet, comment elle le transmet et ce que les gens en retirent.

Sauf qu'en chiant sur la bible « en tant qu'œuvre de fiction » à « ne pas prendre au premier degré » en fait ça revient à chier sur la littérature de fiction.

Qu'est-ce qu'on est sensées pas prendre « au premier degré » aussi ? Ah oui, les jeux vidéos, sur lesquels on ne doit pas poser de regard critique parce que c'est juste un jeu vidéo évidemment ça ne transmet pas de valeurs politiques. Ou les films, c'est juste des films après tout, ça n'a aucune influence. Sauf Fight Club parce que Tyler Durden est vraiment un génie qui a tout compris à la décadence de la société.
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In May, Representative Alexandria Ocasio Cortez confronted Gilead, the makers of PrEP, about the pill’s astronomical cost. "The list price is almost $2,000 in the United States. Why is it $8 in Australia?" the senator asked Gilead CEO Daniel O’Day before the House Committee on Oversight and Reform. “People are dying because of it, and there’s no enforceable reason for it.” (Gilead posted revenue of $3 billion off the once-a-day pill in 2018.)
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Triste anniversaire.
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Heteropessimism consists of performative disaffiliations with heterosexuality, usually expressed in the form of regret, embarrassment, or hopelessness about straight experience. Heteropessimism generally has a heavy focus on men as the root of the problem. That these disaffiliations are “performative” does not mean that they are insincere but rather that they are rarely accompanied by the actual abandonment of heterosexuality.

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A certain strain of heteropessimism assigns 100 percent of the blame for heterosexuality’s malfunction to men, and has thus become one of the myriad ways in which young women—especially white women—have learned to disclaim our own cruelty and power. Like most lesbians, I have found myself on the receiving end of approximately 100,000 drunk straight women bemoaning their orientation and insisting that it would be “so much easier” to be gay. Sure, it probably would be! That “men are trash” is not something I am personally invested in disputing. Yet in announcing her wish to be gay, the speaker carelessly glosses over the fact that she has chosen to stay attached to heterosexuality.
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To someone unfamiliar with sex work, and the constant existential threats sex workers face, being a sex worker might seem like being part of an aspirational cool-girls' club. "Everything cool gets co-opted, and whores have always been the coolest people in the room," said Jacq the Stripper. Strippers working the pole or posing with stacks of cash on Instagram look cool, because strippers are cool, but co-opting sex work as a personal brand without actually being one isn't. "If you take our rhetoric, our style, and our organizing strategies without showing us actual support—and, yes, I mean money—you are part of the problem."
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Bradley was one of her friends. He belonged to a group of boys who I only ever saw together. One of them had a credit card. At some point after we met, they used it to pay to see me naked on the internet. On that day or soon after, Bradley told his friends that he was going to have sex with me. “He wants to fuck you,” one of them said. This was the way things were. If a boy said he wanted to fuck you, you were supposed to feel flattered.
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Butch/femme is a subculture with no strict rulebook, though there are commonalities within the expression of each identity. Butch women often embody what we traditionally regard as masculinity, wearing short hair, loose clothing, trousers and shorts -- think Orange Is The New Black’s Lea DeLaria or Lena Waithe. Femme women tend to embrace femininity; dresses and skirts, make-up and perfume -- more along the lines of Portia de Rossi or, if you’re into Glee, Santana Lopez.

Despite misconceptions, being femme is not about trying to ‘pass’ as straight. In fact it's far from it. In donning femininity at least partially for the gaze of other women, femmes are able to reclaim a kind of womanhood that’s too often automatically equated with heterosexuality. Similarly, the rejection of feminine gender norms by butches is intrinsically radical: it empowers lesbians to renounce patriarchal standards of beauty, giving them relative freedom to present in whichever way they feel most comfortable.
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A 2,554-word essay that aims to explore how to survive a patriarchal capitalist system that forces publications run by young(ish) women—even seemingly wildly successful ones, with robust communities that mourn these losses loudly and vocally—to shut down in spite of their popularity, completely ignored three publications that might have, each in their own way, answered a piece of the thesis question. This article was not the first to completely ignore lesbian and queer women's media when pondering women's websites; it was one in a large compilation of disappointments, as yet another feminist writer I admire did not acknowledge the work queer women's websites do.
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The nature of fandom seems to have morphed in the past decade. In the old days of sci-fi conventions and Bobby Sherman fan clubs, fandom was a subculture reserved for the very young or the very obsessed—or, in the case of the Grateful Dead, the very stoned. As fantasy and comic-book franchises have taken over the entertainment industry, nerd culture has become mainstream. Now that couch potatoes have social media, they have risen up and become active, opinionated participants. As a result, movie studios and TV showrunners have to cater to subsets of diehard devotees, who expect to have a say in how their favorite properties are handled.
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We live in a society where female ways of being are still commonly viewed as second-best, where too much feminine energy can be an obstacle to being taken seriously, where women are expected to conform to stereotypically male communication patterns and expectations in order to have a career and real power. Too often it’s a choice between embracing who you really are and getting what you want in life.
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An entire section of the rules was devoted to censoring depictions of homosexuality. “Intimate activities (holding hands, touching, kissing) between homosexual lovers” were censored, as were “reports of homosexual groups, including news, characters, music, tv show, pictures”. Similarly blocked was content about “protecting rights of homosexuals (parade, slogan, etc.)” and “promotion of homosexuality”.
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The U.S. and UK governments are expected to sign a treaty in October that will force social media platforms based in either of the countries to “disclose encrypted messages from suspected terrorists, paedophiles and other serious criminals” to police in the other, according to the Times of London.

Comment tu peux transmettre le contenu de messages chiffrés que tu n'es pas sensé pouvoir déchiffrer ? 🤔

Oops.
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C'est toujours triste de voir un rêve s'évaporer à tout jamais comme ça.
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Oh no!
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It’s a survival mechanism, especially as someone with depression and anxiety, to try to ignore and normalize the dehumanizing experiences I have to move through in order to live. If I were to allow myself to be bothered by quotidian microaggressions and invalidations and othering, I’d maybe never leave the house.
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Some writers map their sentences metrically, marking the stressed and unstressed syllables with scansion marks as if notating a musical score. Some even work out the stresses before they fill in the words. The rest of us just have a foggy sense that a sentence needs an extra beat. But we still know that a sentence is not just what it says but how it says it.
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