Over the past 20 years, the mainstream media has failed to properly contextualize the Columbine shooting as part of a cultural narrative of exceptionalism that protects would-be killers and abusers. The misleading portrait of “outcast” white boys, which is still applied to shooters like Dylann Roof, positions these dominators as far outside the norm, maintains an illusion of white innocence, and argues for the legitimacy of patriarchal power.
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Psychedelic experience in the modern era has always been queer—not just in the sense of being enchanted, wayward, and weird, but in the more concrete sense that queerfolk have fundamentally shaped the substance, style, and spirituality of the psychedelic underground.
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“How I distinguish a weak tie from a stranger is that there’s mutual recognition,” says Gillian Sandstrom, a senior lecturer at the University of Essex who has studied the effects of weak ties. “You don’t have to know the other person’s name, but you have to have seen them and know who they are.”

Sandstrom co-authored a 2014 study titled, “Social Interactions and Well-Being: The Surprising Power of Weak Ties,” which emphasized the significance of these underrated connections. “These kinds of minimal interactions with people make us feel good—like we’re connected to people,” she says. “It makes us feel more trust in the world and more of a sense of community. I think that’s something humans really need. We need to feel like we’re part of something—that we belong. And we suffer all sorts of negative consequences when we don’t feel that.”
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And though the new breed of nannies is in some ways more varied than its predecessors (we now have male nannies, non-nannies who are more buddy than boss, and power nannies who take their cues from management consultants), these characters bear little resemblance to real-life nannies, who are most likely to be women of color and/or immigrants, whose work is often underpaid and/or undocumented.
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The virtue of strength invites abuse. Adamance enables intransigence. Restraint devolves to disengagement, and fraternity yields exclusion. The veneration of those traits is poison to young men. It offers an easy escape from the necessary struggle of self-reflection and replaces the work of interior discovery with a menu of prefabricated identities.
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En réalité, les sociétés de l’âge du fer composaient avec des femmes d’âge mûr, d’autres qui ne correspondaient pas aux canons de féminité actuel. Surtout, absolument rien ne permet d’affirmer que les femmes ne remplissaient pas les mêmes rôles que les hommes, y compris militaires ou politiques.
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😂

Le gars ça fait trois ans qu'ils me gerbe dessus non stop (et sur llm aussi) mais faut qu'il balance un spoil got pour que quelqu'un l'engueule.

Changez rien 👍
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Je comprend pas tout ces magasins qui osent vendre des ordinateurs avec 4 Go de RAM et Windows pré-installé. C'est vraiment très méchant de se foutre à ce point de la gueule des clients.

Tu veux vraiment rigoler ? Les ordis sous windows 10 qui ont 32Go d'espace total ne peuvent pas se mettre à jour par manque d'espace libre.
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Stigma blocked my ability to feel valued as a real person in our society; I felt that people saw me as trashy and my body as damaged goods. Feelings like that are reinforced when society judges teen moms for not marrying or staying with their partners. And too many of us are conditioned to accept a predestined fate of poverty and failure. These are the ways in which stigma creeps into our lives and rarely leaves us. The pervasive messages about how harmful teen pregnancy is and how promiscuous and irresponsible teen moms are, a characterization rarely used to describe teen fathers, promote discrimination in the very places teen parents should feel safe, like our doctors’ offices and our schools.
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Women came together over coffee and cake, sharing what they could. These meetings, while less overtly political than later lesbian activism, did something amazing: In an era where being out could lead to serious legal and social consequences, they helped American lesbians realize their collective strength.
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[CW mention of abuse and rape]

“Why are you depressed?” my mother asked me when I responded truthfully instead of lying with a simple, “I’m doing fine.” […] And then more men used my body like a glove and they used my kindness as a balm for their own wounds, and they used the home I made for myself to shelter their needs, and then I kept trying and it got harder.
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"Boys know by late adolescence that their close male friendships, and even their emotional acuity, put them at risk of being labeled girly, immature, or gay," Way writes. "Thus, rather than focusing on who they are, they become obsessed with who they are not — they are not girls, little boys nor, in the case of heterosexual boys, are they gay."
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Kylie-Anne Kelly can’t remember the exact moment she became her boyfriend’s one and only, his what would I do without you, but she does remember neglecting her own needs to the point of hospitalization.

[…]

After three years together, when exhaustion and anxiety landed her in the hospital and her boyfriend claimed he was “too busy” to visit, they broke up.
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Black mamas are sitting in prison awaiting trial for being too free. For bringing Black children into a world that fears and punishes them. For writing bad checks to feed their kids. For defending themselves in a world that assaults them daily. For protecting their family members. For crimes they haven’t even been tried for—with bails set too high for their families to pay—forced to wait while the court system pressures them to take guilty pleas for crimes they didn’t commit so they can go home on probation.

What time is it? It’s time to get them out.
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Le féminisme libéral a échoué à décrire suffisamment l’interaction entre le Genre et le genre. Beaucoup de commentateurs trans-libéraux supposent simplement que le genre est inné et anhistorique, une position que nous, en temps que féministes matérialistes et radicales, ne pouvons accepter, étant donné qu’elle implique que, d’une manière ou autre, l’ordre genré existant est lui aussi inné, anhistorique, et inévitable. Il faut que notre réponse à la question «Qu’est-ce-que ça veut dire d’être une femme» soit plus nuancée que «une femme est une personne qui se ressent femme, probablement à cause de sa physiologie/neurologie/ de son ADN féminine.»
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Vous trouvez que la liberté de ne pas aimer une religion est très importante. Mais quand BHL me traite d’antisémite – même si j’étais antisémite, ce qui n’est évidemment pas le cas… "Même si j’étais antisémite, je devrais avoir le droit d’être antisémite. De la même manière que je devrais avoir le droit d’être islamophobe, ou christianophobe…

[…]

Et quand je disais la dernière fois, y a pas de haine des Juifs, j’exagère, pour forcer le trait, pour montrer ce que je veux dire, mais c’est vrai que c’est une maladresse. Ce que je veux dire c’est qu’il me semble que ce n’est pas un phénomène général. Il y a sûrement des pointes de haine par endroit (...) mais"" c’est polysémique ce mot-là.

Quelle ordure ce type.
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Merde, vous avez le droit de ne pas aimer Etienne Chouard, de critiquer ses idées ou ses chaussettes,je m'en fous. Mais justifiez-vous un minimum non ?

Tiens, ça dure une minute: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B9mbJJ_tqdM

Où l'on apprend que dans la résistance il y avait des communistes et des maurrassiens. Et que d'ailleurs DeGaulle était maurrassien. Ce qui sont des thèses soutenues par… l'Action Française, une organisation… d'extrême droite.

Ça te va comme justification bonhomme ?
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Dans un monde virtuellement renversé, Branco est un moment du faux. Parce que les idées qu’il exprime ont le vent en poupe (Michéa, Lancelin ou Chouard, pour ne citer qu’eux, en véhiculent de similaires), il est plus que nécessaire d’œuvrer à les combattre, au sein de notre famille politique comme en dehors.
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In 2018, the IAAF announced a new rule concerning female athletes with a condition called hyperandrogenism, which results in increased testosterone production. The IAAF decided that elevated testosterone levels give them an unfair advantage in races ranging from 400 meters to one mile and instituted a new policy that mandated that female athletes with the condition take medication, such as contraceptives, to reduce their testosterone levels.

Contrôle du corps des femmes. Partout. Tout le temps.
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Anne Lister considered herself to be married twice in her life, once to her beloved Mariana, who broke her heart. Anne’s other marriage was to Ann Walker, her main love interest on the HBO series. Their marriage is now considered to be the first gay marriage in the United Kingdom. Both of Anne Lister’s marriages were sealed with communion at the Holy Trinity church in Goodramgate, York. Both engagements were also sealed with the exchange of rings — and Anne Lister’s favorite type of jewelry: a locket with a tuft of her beloved’s pubic hair inside. In fact, she had an ENTIRE COLLECTION of pubic hair lockets.

Lesbians FTW 😈
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