A private tutor who had a long sexual relationship with an eager teenager, 20 years ago, is now described as "abusing" and "assaulting" him. Thus speaks the voice of dogmatic crusading prudery.

The "victim" recognizes that he enjoyed his first sexual relationship. He probably learned a lot from it. I wish I had had such a chance for learning about sex when I was a teenager.

We don't have enough facts to be sure, but I suspect that the reason he claims now that it hurt him is that he was swept along by the general revulsion against such sexual relationships into believing that something bad had been done to him.

Once he started looking for bad, he could surely find some. No doubt the relationship was not ideal. Probably she didn't love him, just wanted sex with him. Some aspects may have been disappointing. That's normal in any relationship, and especially any first relationship, but if you're predisposed to find "abuse" you can perceive any disappointment it as a sign of such.